1 John 4:16-18

16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us.

 God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17 This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.


When I ask people, what they do, the normal response is, “I am  _____” In other words, we define ourselves by our work.  It’s common not only to say, “I am ____”, but also to value and define ourselves by our work.  It makes us feel secure to know we have a place, a value or a definition based on our work.  As long as we have that picture of ourselves we feel secure.

What happens when we can’t answer that question? When we lose our place, or become unemployed, or our work changes as life does?  All of the above could happen. We cannot always be defined as a student, by the job we hold, the work of a parent, or a caregiver.  Often we are not prepared for the change.  Out of fear we try to cling to what was.  

Years ago, someone told me we need to retire TO something.  Some call this reinventing ourselves.  Still, we can reach a point when we can’t say, “I am ____” based on what we do.  

Perfect love does not require reinventing ourselves, but recognizing who we are.  We are a unique, unrepeatable miracle of God.  This never changes.  It doesn’t matter if what work we do changes; who we are in God’s eyes never changes.  We can face the changes and uncertainty of our lives without fear.


Thank you, God, that I am a unique, unrepeatable miracle child of yours.  I look forward to riding the waves of change in my life with you.  Amen.